Unplug for Fun!

Thursday, 10 October, 2019

One of the most important things to do as a family is unplug! But unplugging should be more than having your kids turn in their phones at dinner or bedtime. It should be an opportunity to connect, laugh, and realize life CAN be fun without technology!

Fun really hasn’t changed over the years, so take time to remember what you loved to do during the fall months growing up, then ask your kids what sounds fun to them—there’s a good chance that your memories and their ideas will coincide! 

Here are some great fall activities to consider:

Get Creative

  • Carve or paint pumpkins
  • Make a Thankful Pumpkin (Purchase a white styrofoam pumpkin and take turns writing down blessings with Sharpie markers)
  • Create a variety of fall crafts (leaf rubbings, Q-tip tree paintings, bookmarks, etc.)
  • Decorate for the holidays

Good Food & Good Times

  • Make a fall dessert (like the pumpkin chocolate chip bread recipe below!)
  • Bake homemade bread
  • Toast pumpkin seeds
  • Take a treat to a widow

Homemade Fun

  • Play board games
  • Build a fort
  • Plan a friend or family party
  • Create some new family traditions
  • Write thank-you notes
  • Make an “unplug” bucket list for next month

Take it Outside

  • Rake leaves and jump in the piles
  • Decorate the sidewalks with chalk pumpkins
  • Explore the fall colors in the city
  • Go on a hike
  • Make a picnic
  • Gather around a bonfire
  • Take a family picture

Fall Forays

  • Find a local service project on JustServe.org
  • Go to a pumpkin patch
  • Find a local corn maze
  • Take a hayride
  • Attend a local fair
  • Scream at a haunted house
  • Take each child on a special one-on-one date 

And since family fun is always better with treats, try this great fall recipe!

Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Bread


1-2/3 c  flour
1 c  sugar
1 T  pumpkin spice
1 t  baking soda
1/4 t  baking powder
Dash of salt

2  Eggs
1 c  Canned pumpkin
1/2 c  Melted butter
1 c  Chocolate chips


1. Melt butter and let it cool.
2. Mix all the dry ingredients together.
3. Mix all the wet ingredients together and combine.
4. Fold in the chocolate chips.
5. Fill two bread pans 2/3 full (about 1 1/2 cups each).
6. Bake at 350º for 40–45 minutes.

8 ideas for creating family cell phone guidelines that rock! — Part 3 of 3

Friday, 4 October, 2019

Over the last couple of weeks, we’ve covered six ideas for creating guidelines for our kids’ cell phones: 

  1. Make it a special event.
  2. Get rid of the word “rules.”
  3. Cell phones aren’t bad or good—it all depends on how we use them.
  4. Make it their idea.
  5. Listen.
  6. Empower.

This week we’ll finish up with these two! 

Nobody’s Perfect 

Let your kids know we ALL make mistakes. Find out what ideas they have for being consistent and how they can kindly remind each other when someone messes up. Instead of focusing on the consequences of NOT following the guidelines, encourage your kids to keep trying and compliment them when you see they’re following the rules. 

Most importantly, mention how much you trust them to make good decisions. Our kids will do their very best to live up to whatever we think they’re capable of doing! 

Thank Them for Their Awesome Ideas

Last but not least, it’s a good idea to thank each of your kids for their suggestions, ideas, and willingness to participate. Mention how excited you are to get started on this new plan and how it’s going to be such a wonderful thing for the whole family!

I hope these ideas can help your family when it comes time to create your own guidelines!

8 ideas for creating family cell phone guidelines that rock! — Part 2 of 3

Friday, 27 September, 2019

Last week, I posted three ideas on how to start talking about family cellphone guidelines, and this week I’ve got three more!

These are my FAVORITES of all eight of them because they’ve made the biggest difference in my relationship with my two kids. They’re guaranteed to win your kids over every. single. time. 🙂

Make It Their Idea

Getting kids to want to do something can be tough, especially if you know they’re not going to want to do it in the first place. So what’s the answer? 

Get them to think your idea is theirs. 

All you need to do is ask the right questions and get them thinking!

  • “What do you think about ______________?” 
  • “What are some of the positive/negative things that can come from doing ______________?”
  • “How can we help each other do better at ______________?” 
  • “How can Mom and Dad do a better job at ______________?” This will be their favorite question of all and there’s an excellent chance that whatever they suggest, they’ll recognize they should do, too.

It really is possible to get your kids to do something they don’t want. It’s all in your approach!


Have you ever heard that being listened to is so close to being loved that many cannot tell the difference? Listening to our kids is one of the greatest gifts we can give them. In fact, it’s one of the greatest gifts we can give anyone!

The sure way to skip the all-to-familiar frustration and contention that accompanies the cell phone discussion is to ask your kids for their opinions, ideas, and advice. Let them know they’ve got your full attention, too!

  • Make direct eye contact.
  • Don’t interrupt. Let them share their ENTIRE thought and wait a few seconds before commenting, so you know they’re totally finished.
  • Repeat back what they’ve said. “Thanks for sharing that! So what I’m hearing you say is that you want to ______________. Is that right?” If you’ve got it wrong, they’ll let you know.


As parents, our comments play a significant role in how our kids feel about themselves, their ability to overcome challenges, and how they treat others. During the cell phone conversation, look for opportunities to build them up and make them feel awesome!

  • Validate their ideas and build their confidence. “That’s a great idea!” “How did you think of that?” 
  • Make them feel knowledgeable. “You’re so smart!” “Wow, you have the best ideas!”
  • Try to understand. Regardless of what they say, let them state their opinion without any judgment or criticism. Even if you don’t agree, you can always comment, “That’s a different way of looking at it. I really appreciate you sharing that.”

Use these three skills with your kids and make the most difficult discussions some of the best!

8 ideas for creating family cell phone guidelines that rock! — Part 1 of 3

Friday, 20 September, 2019

“One of the hardest things to do in this life is create a family plan that everyone agrees on.”

Have you ever had an experience where your best intentions produced the exact opposite of what you wanted? I sure have! 

What has surprised me is that over the last 21 years I’ve been a mom my failures and mistakes have become the greatest tools in helping me figure out how to parent smarter, empower my kids, and create a stronger bond between us.

Having the cell-phone-dos-and-don’ts conversation is something we all kind of dread. So over the next few weeks, I’ll share 8 ideas that I’ve found successful when talking to my kids and have had a really positive on our family.

My hope is that they can help parents create a successful cell phone plan their kids will stick to—and accomplish in a way that fosters unity, empathy, and love!

Make It a Special Event 

A sure way to get your kids to whine and sulk is for them to think they’re being called together to hear new rules they believe will make their lives harder. 

So how do you get around this while still talking about a difficult subject? 

One way is to gather your family in a way that feels unique and fun. Here are some questions you can ask yourself to get your creative juices flowing!

  • What is a dessert you rarely serve that your kids loooooove?
  • Is there a place you could go to make the gathering unique? Outside on the lawn, a park, a restaurant?
  • Is there a fun activity you could do before or afterward? Movie, swimming, bike ride?

Whatever you end up doing, your goal is to create a good, positive feeling among everyone! 

Get Rid of the Word “Rules”

It’s part of our human nature to rebel against absolute authority or anything that takes away our ability to choose. Because the word RULES has an especially negative connotation among kids, it can easily provoke this same reaction.

Instead of creating RULES for cell phones, use a word that evokes a sense of choice. Try using synonyms like guidelines, plans, boundaries, or healthy habits. If you choose your words carefully, you’ll be able to foster a feeling of openness, encourage participation and get the outcome you’re looking for.

Are Cell Phones Bad or Good?

Kids are always hearing the negative things about cell phones, so clarify that a phone has the ability to be positive and negative. It all depends on how we use them. 

The easiest way to explain this is to compare a cell phone to money. Ask your kids these questions:

  • What are some ways money can be spent to make our lives better? 
  • What are some ways money can be spent that can hurt us or others?

Explain that cell phones are like money. Discuss ways they can enrich our lives and how they can negatively affect us. Talking about this will encourage your kids to recognize and think about the type of influence their phones can play in their lives.

These are just a few suggestions I hope will be helpful in creating a plan and get you thinking of other positive ways to approach your kids about cell phones. 

Feel free to share this article and be sure to check back next week for more ideas about creating a family cell phone plan that rocks!